It’s not uncommon to find yourself having to take on the role of a caregiver for an aging parent. It can be a difficult transition for both you and your parent.
It’s challenging when the aging parent becomes stubborn and resistant to accepting help or making changes that may be necessary for their health and well-being.
To deal with stubborn aging parents, you’ll want to show empathy, use positive language, create a plan together, remain calm and patient, take care of yourself, and know when to seek professional help.
Learn how these strategies can help create a positive, open environment, promoting healthy conversations and outcomes.
Strategies to Help Deal with Aging Parents
Show Empathy
Before you begin any conversation with your aging parent, it is crucial to take a moment to show empathy toward their situation. It can be difficult for them to accept that they need help or need to make changes in their lives.
Try to see things from their perspective, and let them know you understand how challenging this process can be. By showing empathy, you can help build trust and create an environment where they feel comfortable discussing their concerns.
Use Positive Language
When talking with your aging parent, use positive rather than negative language.
For example, instead of saying, “You can’t do this,” say, “Let me help you with this.”
Doing so can help your parent feel more empowered and in control of their lives, increasing their willingness to accept help.
Make a Plan Together
It’s essential to create a plan together with your parent. Involve them in decision-making and make them feel like they have a say.
Let them know that you’re on their side and want to help them achieve their goals.
By creating a plan together, you can also help your parent feel more invested in the process and make them more likely to follow through.
Remain Calm & Patient
It is important to remain calm and patient when dealing with stubborn aging parents, even if they become confrontational or defensive. As with any argument, always remember to stay calm. If you don’t, you risk escalating the argument further, which will not improve the situation.
Remember that it’s not personal, and they may resist change because they feel a loss of control or independence.
Take a break if you need to, and approach the conversation again when you’re feeling calmer.
Take Care of Yourself
Dealing with stubborn aging parents can be emotionally and physically draining. It’s essential to take care of yourself.
Practice self-care activities such as exercise, meditation, or spending time with friends. Seek support from friends and family members, or join a support group where you can connect with others going through similar experiences.
Seek Professional Help
If your stubborn parent is not cooperating with you, it may help to bring in professional help. Look into independent living services which can provide caregivers for seniors.
Independent living offers different types of services for families with various needs.
A Safe & Supportive Haven for Aging Parents
Aging parents, and especially stubborn aging parents, can be a source of stress and headaches. By equipping yourself with the right strategies, you can better deal with them when they become overwhelmed or too demanding.
The Villages of Farragut offers a safe, community-oriented haven for aging parents. Our community is run by professional staff who prioritize independence and provide support services when necessary.
Here you’ll find loved ones feel cared for in their old age and provide endless opportunities for new experiences and friendships. Schedule a tour at The Villages of Farragut today to see all we offer!
